Nice piece! I didn't realize you were in Florida. Which part? I'm down in Hendry County.
As an Ohioian who's moved across the United States four times I cannot recommend yeeting thyself more. The two best moves were when I went with whatever would fit in a single car.
Thanks, I appreciate that. It felt like something that should be shared.
We're all the way up in Duval Co, where it gets a bit nippy from time to time. The fact that I say such a thing is hilarious given my lifetime of weather conditioning near the Great Lakes where we would bust out shorts if the temp was above 60. It only took one year in FL to break me, so now I'm cold if it's below 75 and there's a breeze. 😂
You've described your life as somewhat austere, and I cannot claim any such thing. However, simplifying is indeed good for the soul. 😄
Skyrim! Love it. Nerdy Nords are underappreciated imo.
It's funny, because I lived most of my life in WNY having no idea that our accent, vernacular, and more is actually midwestern. I cannot tell you how many times I'm asked here if I'm from the midwest - specifically, for some reason, Wisconsin lmao.
Well, since you mention rodeos and shit, how could we not? We'll eventually make our way south, not sure when, but that's an invite we'll gladly accept.
“ We could have purchased our house for less than half what we ended up paying for it and now have a home worth double our investment and have a half paid off mortgage. I get caught up in that thought sometimes, then remind myself it is unproductive. There is no changing what’s happened, I can only make choices for today and the days that follow.”
I lost my home to divorce in 2009. Foreclosure. 😞 But it had to happen because of my marriage ended in violent, with my ex husband going to jail for shooting a gun at me. Anyway, I lost my career at the time, and literally started over. I still cringe about the loss of everything I had. Allow in my mind to return to that place of time is incredibly unproductive for me. But sometimes I think about the worth of my previous home. When I left it was valued at about $800,000. Today, 15 years later over $3 million. My life is so happy now that I honestly don’t miss it except for an occasional cringe. No matter how big your loss, don’t cry over it even if it’s a $3 million glass of spilled milk. Sending you much blessings. I empathize with you. Great article, thank you! ✨🤗💖
Charlotte, thank you so much for subscribing and for sharing your experience. I am truly sorry you had to go through any of that, and it seems we have some common experiences.
My ex-husband is an abusive psycho. I also lost the home I had with him to foreclosure, though it was not worth nearly so much as yours. I loved my home, of course, and put so much work into it, but he couldn't hold a job for long because of his personality disorder. The good thing was, the foreclosure was the last straw that that helped me leave him.
I lost my job because I left my husband. My boss was his best friend, and he did not believe me when I finally opened up about the years of abuse. His wife - my then best friend - did not believe it either. So, I, too, had to start over. I, too, cringe over the loss of my entire life... but, like you, I am happy now. My life is better. Instead of breaking and defeating me, all of the horrible experiences empowered me and helped me find a healthier place for myself. It sounds like your challenges have done the same, and it is something to be truly grateful for.
I am sincerely glad you are happy! It probably isn't possible for us to never think of those things or to have regrets, even some bitterness. However, I think the important lesson is to not allow ourselves to dwell on those things and give them a place in our lives. Instead, I repeatedly choose to focus on the good things that came out of such difficult times, as I'm sure you do.
You have moved on, I have moved on, and we are both better, stronger women for it all. Bless you, dear sister, and thank you. ❤️
Looking forward to following along on your insights. The journey of the last 4 years has also been a deepening of my relationship with God. I am not a New Yorker but I worked for a NYC- headquartered company until May 2, 2022 - a departure not by choice and which is currently being litigated. So I understand having less money and a totally different life. May God bless you on your journey.
Jennifer, thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to leave a comment. I suspect these past years have done much to awaken those who were sleeping, or, like me, had chosen to ignore the world following so much trauma. I am glad we have a platform like Substack where we can gather to encourage one another, share resources, alert others to opportunities for action, as well as laugh and be social. Should things truly go sideways in the near future, I believe the relationships we form here will be important.
I pray for a just outcome regarding your forced departure! I pray, too, that we may see opportunities for all those harmed by mandates to receive justice. It's hard to not be bloodthirsty about it and crave vengeance, but, I have to remind myself that it is truly in God's hands. Vengeance and justice are His, and we do have the assurance that every one will stand before the judgement seat of Christ. The perpetrators of these terrible crimes will reap what they have sown. God bless, you, too, Jennifer. I hope to see you around the stacks. =)
Nice piece! I didn't realize you were in Florida. Which part? I'm down in Hendry County.
As an Ohioian who's moved across the United States four times I cannot recommend yeeting thyself more. The two best moves were when I went with whatever would fit in a single car.
Simplify, simplify.
Thanks, I appreciate that. It felt like something that should be shared.
We're all the way up in Duval Co, where it gets a bit nippy from time to time. The fact that I say such a thing is hilarious given my lifetime of weather conditioning near the Great Lakes where we would bust out shorts if the temp was above 60. It only took one year in FL to break me, so now I'm cold if it's below 75 and there's a breeze. 😂
You've described your life as somewhat austere, and I cannot claim any such thing. However, simplifying is indeed good for the soul. 😄
Based on my last visit to Cleveland, I'm retained my midwestern cold resist. Am I basically a nerdy Nord? I'd like to think so.
FUS RO DERP
Anyway, if you and yours ever fancy a trip further south feel free to drop in. We have rodeos and shit.
Skyrim! Love it. Nerdy Nords are underappreciated imo.
It's funny, because I lived most of my life in WNY having no idea that our accent, vernacular, and more is actually midwestern. I cannot tell you how many times I'm asked here if I'm from the midwest - specifically, for some reason, Wisconsin lmao.
Well, since you mention rodeos and shit, how could we not? We'll eventually make our way south, not sure when, but that's an invite we'll gladly accept.
“ We could have purchased our house for less than half what we ended up paying for it and now have a home worth double our investment and have a half paid off mortgage. I get caught up in that thought sometimes, then remind myself it is unproductive. There is no changing what’s happened, I can only make choices for today and the days that follow.”
I lost my home to divorce in 2009. Foreclosure. 😞 But it had to happen because of my marriage ended in violent, with my ex husband going to jail for shooting a gun at me. Anyway, I lost my career at the time, and literally started over. I still cringe about the loss of everything I had. Allow in my mind to return to that place of time is incredibly unproductive for me. But sometimes I think about the worth of my previous home. When I left it was valued at about $800,000. Today, 15 years later over $3 million. My life is so happy now that I honestly don’t miss it except for an occasional cringe. No matter how big your loss, don’t cry over it even if it’s a $3 million glass of spilled milk. Sending you much blessings. I empathize with you. Great article, thank you! ✨🤗💖
Charlotte, thank you so much for subscribing and for sharing your experience. I am truly sorry you had to go through any of that, and it seems we have some common experiences.
My ex-husband is an abusive psycho. I also lost the home I had with him to foreclosure, though it was not worth nearly so much as yours. I loved my home, of course, and put so much work into it, but he couldn't hold a job for long because of his personality disorder. The good thing was, the foreclosure was the last straw that that helped me leave him.
I lost my job because I left my husband. My boss was his best friend, and he did not believe me when I finally opened up about the years of abuse. His wife - my then best friend - did not believe it either. So, I, too, had to start over. I, too, cringe over the loss of my entire life... but, like you, I am happy now. My life is better. Instead of breaking and defeating me, all of the horrible experiences empowered me and helped me find a healthier place for myself. It sounds like your challenges have done the same, and it is something to be truly grateful for.
I am sincerely glad you are happy! It probably isn't possible for us to never think of those things or to have regrets, even some bitterness. However, I think the important lesson is to not allow ourselves to dwell on those things and give them a place in our lives. Instead, I repeatedly choose to focus on the good things that came out of such difficult times, as I'm sure you do.
You have moved on, I have moved on, and we are both better, stronger women for it all. Bless you, dear sister, and thank you. ❤️
Looking forward to following along on your insights. The journey of the last 4 years has also been a deepening of my relationship with God. I am not a New Yorker but I worked for a NYC- headquartered company until May 2, 2022 - a departure not by choice and which is currently being litigated. So I understand having less money and a totally different life. May God bless you on your journey.
Jennifer, thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to leave a comment. I suspect these past years have done much to awaken those who were sleeping, or, like me, had chosen to ignore the world following so much trauma. I am glad we have a platform like Substack where we can gather to encourage one another, share resources, alert others to opportunities for action, as well as laugh and be social. Should things truly go sideways in the near future, I believe the relationships we form here will be important.
I pray for a just outcome regarding your forced departure! I pray, too, that we may see opportunities for all those harmed by mandates to receive justice. It's hard to not be bloodthirsty about it and crave vengeance, but, I have to remind myself that it is truly in God's hands. Vengeance and justice are His, and we do have the assurance that every one will stand before the judgement seat of Christ. The perpetrators of these terrible crimes will reap what they have sown. God bless, you, too, Jennifer. I hope to see you around the stacks. =)
It is truly in God's hands! And tomorrow, we celebrate His resurrection.
A slow brew catharsis can obviously be a healthy thing. Deep thoughts from a healing soul.
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